| WATER DAY |

So last weekend, the boys didn't have school for 2 days and that's when they have had a rare long weekend because their teachers having Staff Retreat till Sunday so we plan something on the first holiday day to make them tired but they don't seem to at the end of the day!

Why boys why!

Sometimes I wonder where they get all the energy from.

The itinerary was to have a dip in the pool and went back home, watch movie before off to bed early.

But everything changed when they woke up at 6am (their usual waking up time for school, grrrr).

Therefore we had to leave earlier since they were bugging me to bring them to the pool fast!

We went out as normal as we would and head off to Pasir Ris Sports Hub (or was it called), had MacDonald's for breakfast (you gotta read next paragraph).

While eating as usual, kids will be kids and they were getting mischievous since Lil' Precious was taking his own sweet time to finish his Happy Meal.

Yes guys, Lil' Precious eats Happy Meals now though he's 11 months old only.

So I was trying to settle them all down when they start getting all over the place, getting stares while I was 'taming' them.

And there was a family 4 seats away from us giving me that look, yup the look of disgust on how I 'tame' my boys to behave.

Do I care or give a heck?

I DON'T.

Not that I am not giving a damn about others having their breakfast but you're giving me the stares and talking about it because I was trying my best to make my children behave so you could have your breakfast peacefully is just so IRRKKK.

But then again, I'm immune to it so I got over it right there and then.

So long my kids are settling down, we're good.

Anyways, today's post is not about all the above but its about how me and the ex realising that communication is very essential between us especially eye coordination and body language.

Once the Dad arrives, we had a dip and everything was going well.

We were happily having fun, and I was playing Mummy shark with Lil' Precious and Lil' Baby when there were screams from the others.

That's when we both start worrying, my heart was pounding because they were all calling out to BOYS to come back to the side of the pool.

So the Dad went to have a look and I was searching for my 2 elder boys at the slide and you guessed it, they weren't there!

I picked Lil' Precious up and hold on to Lil' Baby walking over and saw the Dad jumping into the deep pool, that's when I wanted to panic but I'm not sure how I manage to stay calm as calm as a water full of sharks/crocodiles.

Yes, I didn't panic but was calm throughout.

I didn't cry like I normally would, but I was calm calm calm.

I saw Lil' Junior at the stairs and behind him was the Dad carrying a half drowned BabyK who's crying with red eyes and vomit all over his Dad's swim shirt.

We both did't panic either nor did we both scold any of them.

We were calm, talked slowly and just exchanged kids so I could calm BabyK and asked Li' Junior what happen.

So you wonder where were we both earlier prior?

We were all together happily playing shark and laughing it out coz BabyK bites me saying he's a shark.

This was funny because I scream and everyone looked. Silly me.

Then they both went to the slide and I continued playing shark with the 2 younger boys while the Dad sits by the side of the pool.

Not even 2 minutes later, that's when the screams was heard.

Lifeguard.

So where were the lifeguards?

We were both furiously mad at the lifeguard who 'tried' to rescue BabyK.

Why you may ask.

Its because he's not even fit to be on duty or called a lifeguard because he didn't bother to jump into the pool but just call out to my 2 boys to come out from the pool when BabyK was already half drown and struggling finally afloat!

(the above was narrated by an onlooker who's kind enough offering to be there to keep a lookout for the other children after)

Oh no. The so called lifeguard didn't bother to jump into the pool that made me furious coz all he did was tried to pull BabyK out of the pool which was hindered by a 1m wall between him, and the pool BabyK was in.

But after which, I got back my BabyK who said,

"Mummy, cannot go that pool okay."

Even telling his other siblings not to go either.

Oh my BabyK, you're so pure and innocent.

Its both of our fault for not having the eye contact between us and missed that 2 minute situation where by our boys slipped out from our view.

And kids are so so mischievous enough to do tricks against us that they seem to be 2 steps ahead.

From now on, eye contact and communication is so much important than anything else to us both.

And by the way, the pool was 1.5m deep.

My boys are 0.9m tall.

You wonder?

After the ordeal, we still played table soccer awhile before we went longkang fishing and feeding of the fishes.

BabyK is still running around well now and physically fit.

But we're still monitoring him and Lil' Junior as well.

So Mums and Dad's, or exes.

Put aside your ego and co-parent with the same eye contact and communication you have had before your separation because our kids lives are so so precious.

If the same were to happen to you,

DON'T PANIC AND STAY CALM.

PUSH YOUR ANGER ASIDE AND KEEP CALM.

SETTLE YOUR PRECIOUS KIDS FIRST, SETTLE DOWN.

Once that's all done and all seem fine, take the next step you wish to take.

In our case, we just let the lifeguard go because our babies are safe and doing fine after.

Plus we don't wanna ruin the day as well.

On top of that, its the day for the boys to spent time with both us parents, have fun.

So that's our Water Day and yes, we'll still go to the same place to have dip in the pool but with our very own lifesaver.

OUR FIREFIGHTER AND LIFEGUARD.

Love,

N.A